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What a time we've had lately! It's been a while since I last posted. We've had much happening. My dad got very ill & we almost lost him. He is doing better now, thankfully. I wasn't sure how our son would deal with this as he just lost one of his grandma's last year. He has been doing ok, though. We keep a line of communication open & both of our kids can ask anything they want about what's happening. We try to answer them as best as we can at a level they understand; without giving them too much info.
We got a puppy recently too. Right now our Aspie son & the puppy are playing behind me. This has been good for both of our kids, but especially our Aspie son. He is learning how to take care of an animal & he has such a passion for animals. I hope they build a good bond over the years.
We've also had to deal with school issues as of late. High School has been a big adjustment for our Aspie son. He is doing ok in many of his classes, but the ones that deal with abstract ideas & such have proven to be much more difficult for him. He is very black & white; there is no grey. His sense of humor is growing this year though. I'm not sure what to think about that yet. Algebra I & Business class have proven very difficult. We are getting him help to get him through the courses he is struggling with.
Our other issue these days is his latest fixation. The ancient world & the battles of old. He is so fixated on these recently that he has a hard time living in the present. It's a struggle to help him find the line between fantasy & reality. He wants to conquer the evil in the world. I understand the desire to get rid of evil, but we have to live where we are. I know that Aspie's often have difficulty with reality. We are considering our couseling options again, but have to check for insurance coverage. We are also attempting to have talks about the end times & what is to come. This is where his desire stems from. He wants to protect God's people. Honorable thought. I don't know how God is going to use this passion of his. I just pray that He will help us find the way to help him find a balance in his life.
There is much to pray about as a parent, but things could be so much worse. He is not in any trouble, doesn't do any drugs or drinking. He is beginning to sit with me & watch TV together. He starts conversations with me. (usually about ancient things) I am encouraged that he is willing to be around dear old mom, even though I cause him so much grief. (that's the teen in him talking) We are planning to go to New York together for his 16th birthday. A mom & son trip. He is excited about being able to fulfill one of his dreams; visiting the American Museum of Natural History. We're also going to the Bronx Zoo. It's the largest in the U.S., which I thought was interesting as it's in the middle of a large city.
I hope I always am able to look to the good that is happening in his life, not just the struggles he is going through. I know he will always have struggles in different areas of his life, but I hope he will learn to lean on God to see him through these times. We can all be encouraged that more attention is being paid to our kids that maybe there will be more & more help for them. We have to stand up for them & speak out. We have a job to do to help them become the best adults they can be. Some may be able to function on their own, some will not; but they can all be their best. Not our best, their best. I've learned that I need to accept his limitations; but help him to press to do more than he thinks he can do. We want him to succeed & live his dreams. As a mom I have to remember it's his dreams, not mine. If he doesn't get Algebra, it's not the end of the world. He needs to pass it to graduate, but he doesn't have to get an A or B. We have been very blessed with how well he has always done & forget sometimes that the work can be a struggle. I know there are many who struggle much more than our son. This doesn't make his struggle any less important, just helps me to keep perspective. We need to all be praying for our kids to help them through the many issues they face daily. We cannot know what's in their minds, but can be there for whatever we can do to support them.
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